There is a story I heard once about a woman who needed to lose a lot of weight. She determined in her mind that she wasn’t going to be fat anymore. She stood in the mirror and shook her fist at herself. “I am a fighter,” she told herself. “Fighters don’t give up.” And she didn’t. She fought the fat, she fought the desire to stay inactive, and she fought against her own emotional demons.
Are you a fat fighter? Not just in terms of food choices, but in your mind. When you think of a fighter what image comes to mind? For me I visualize a strong, toned, muscular man with determination of steel. He doesn’t give up, and keeps working towards his goal no matter what his adversary throws at him.
For me, in my journey to lose 150 pounds, the adversary wasn’t always Oreos, M&M’s, and high fat chips, but rather life’s unexpected twists and turns that threatened to derailed me right in the midst of my success.
As an example of such a time, allow me to share something that happened during the year that I was working on reducing my weight. I had a family relationship that completely fell apart. Not in my immediate family, but in the extended family. It was an incredibly stressful time for me and my husband. What was my first reaction when the stress came? It was to eat. But I distinctly remember telling myself that I wasn’t going to allow outside stresses to push me off my plan. I was a fighter that day.
What other things happen that can threaten your success?
- Work problems
- Job layoffs
- Financial problems
- Health issues
- Family struggles
- __________________ (you fill in the blank)
These types of situations can come along and affect your life at any moment, and can threaten to affect your success.
Instead of falling off the wagon under pressure, I’d encourage you to think of yourself as a fighter. Remind yourself of the objectives you have set for yourself, and never lose sight of your goals. Visualize yourself as a fighter-strong and poised to win the battle.
I do understand that this isn’t easy, because life rarely is. But if you go into your weight loss journey already thinking about fighting your way through difficulties that will arise, you are ahead of the game.
That family relationship that brought so much stress into our lives didn’t just disappear the minute I decided to fight my way through the emotional mess and continue losing weight. But instead of the relationship causing me to quit my plan, a wonderful thing happened. Working through the problem without falling back into my old habits strengthened my resolve and belief in myself.
Instead of just imagining myself as a fighter, and a survivor I saw that I actually was one. I had actually walked through a difficult situation and won.
What strategies can you practice that will help you develop your fighter mentality?
♦ Imagine yourself as a physically and mentally strong person
♦ Plan what steps you will take when difficult times come
♦ If you fall down, get right back up and keep fighting
♦ Don’t give up on your dream of winning your own personal battle
You can change your mentality from one of worry and self-defeat to one of a warrior and a fighter. I leave you with this quote by Aristotle:
I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self.
What helps you prepare to fight for yourself? Have you ever had a victory that you can look back on as a reminder to help you stay strong? Diane