Guilt isn’t the most productive emotion – in many cases it can overwhelm us to the point of inaction. Guilt concerning past actions, unkind thoughts or behaviors and guilt over other’s reactions to us can stymie us and keep us from moving forward.
I’ve spoken with quite a few people over the past year who have quit their various weight loss programs. When we condensed the reason down – a lot of their reasons for quitting came down to guilt.
♦Guilt over “messing up.”
♦ Guilt over taking time away from their families to exercise.
♦Guilt over spending a bit more money on healthier foods.
♦ Guilt when they quit their “for-fee” program without having lost down to their goal weight.
It makes me sad when I think about how often I quit weight-loss programs in the past. My reason for quitting was usually tied to guilt over making bad choices, then letting the feelings of guilt cause me to come up with other reasons to quit.
When I reflect on my finally successful weight loss, I realize that I did not let guilt overwhelm me any longer. Instead, I learned to recognize that guilt was not a productive emotion and that instead of guilt motivating me – guilt beat me down. I occasionally felt guilty when I spent time exercising while the rest of the family, but I put the feelings of guilt away and thought about how much more energy I had to spend time being active with my kids rather than sitting on the couch.
I sometimes felt guilty when I spent a bit more money at the grocery store – but I knew logically that healthy food was good for me and if I could spend $3.00 on a bag of chips, I could spend $5.00 in the produce section.
Friends tried to make me feel guilty by bringing up the fact that since I was losing so much weight my clothing budget was probably out of control. Instead of letting their comments get under my skin, I just smiled and knew that no matter what they thought – it was more fun buying clothes in the regular sized area of the department store.
As you go throughout your journey, I’d just like to encourage you to put unnecessary feelings of guilt aside. I figuratively “beat myself up” over poor choices I made, but that didn’t get me any closer to my goal. Once I was able to let go of the guilt and embrace the freedom making healthy choices gave me – I was more at peace with myself during my journey.
Have you ever thought about guilt and weight loss? Any correlation for you? Diane