This day is dedicated as the National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day to recognize the million babies lost through miscarriage, stillbirth and infant death each year. I know this blog is about weight loss, but it’s also a place for me to share my feelings and life experiences. I have people tell me all the time how lucky I am to have seven beautiful children, and I agree 100 percent. I am blessed beyond measure.
However, within all that joy, there have been tragedies. As some of you know, I had three of my children before I lost weight. When I got to my goal weight in 1998, I had three children, aged 7, 4 and 1.
In 1999, I got pregnant twice and both times lost the babies at 7 weeks. Those were dark months for me, as I wanted both the babies very much. I remember worrying that my weight loss was bad for my fertility as I had never miscarried before. My doctor assured me that if anything, being at a healthy weight was good for pregnancies. I was skeptical, but I didn’t gain weight to test my flawed theory.
Fortunately, I was able to have more children in 2000, 2002 and 2005. In 2006, I miscarried again – this time at 8 weeks. John and I were so sad, and felt great joy when we got pregnant and had our last son in 2007.
Finally, we got pregnant again last year and I carried the baby for 16.5 weeks. Our baby, Joshua, lost his heartbeat when I was four and a half months pregnant this past March. (Update: Since this post was published I had three more miscarriages.)
So on this day, October 15th, I wanted to publicly remember the babies I lost, and ask you to remember babies that you, friends or family members have lost. Miscarriage, stillbirth and perinatal death are not talked about a lot, but each has the potential to profoundly affect every person involved. Consider lighting a candle with me at 7:00 tonight to remember those who are no longer with us.
Thank you for letting me share. Diane