Finding Your Inner Toughie

You may have heard this saying before:

When the going gets tough, the tough get going.

This quote resonates with me on a lot of levels. There have been times in my life when I had to get going to make things happen, and times in my life where I wish I had taken more immediate action to make things happen.

For example, John and I had to learn the hard way how to get out of credit card debt, because we didn’t “get going” on a plan until things had gotten beyond tough. (Thank you Dave Ramsey and his book, “The Total Money Makeover.)

From a weight loss perspective, staying “tough” when the process got rough was one of the best things I ever did.

You see, losing weight is not easy. If it were, we would all be at a healthy weight. But we aren’t, because the pressures society exerts on us make it very easy to swim with the tide and eat huge portions at restaurants, sit down more than we are up, and use food as entertainment.

When you weight loss journey gets tough, you sometimes have to swim against the tide. I know I did.

I had to dig deep and find my inner toughie when my friends were trying to tempt me with foods I did not want or when my mind was telling me that it was okay to purchase a Number 1 combo meal from McDonald’s.

That inner tough spirit came in handy when I found myself staring down the candy aisle at the grocery store or deciding whether I really needed to exercise on Tuesday because I had just exercised the day before.

None of my friends would have described me as “tough.” Sarcastic, yes. Tough, no. But when I was losing weight I discovered that I was stronger, yes tougher, than I ever thought I was.

Finding your inner tough spirit can help you when this journey gets rough. I have met so many people who had some success and just slowly softened their stances on clean eating, healthy living, and exercise. Eventually, they quit altogether and almost always regained their weight.

To find my inner tough girl I realized a few things about myself.

1. I had ever right to say no when I needed to and say yes when I needed to.

2. This was my path. My journey. My life.

3. Any decision I made had an impact on my life.

4. I was worth getting tough for.

How are you doing when the going gets tough? Do you get stronger or find yourself swimming with the tide? Diane

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26 thoughts on “Finding Your Inner Toughie

  1. Leah says:

    Diane this post is exactly what I needed today. You know me..I tend to follow the tide, usually the tide of my own thoughts and giving in too often.

    This week (and a few days the week before) I had to find my inner toughie. It paid off.

  2. KarenJ says:

    This post really resonates with me. Although I have friends that are not overweight, I am one of the few in my circle that really has to work hard to stay at a healthy weight. I have gone out to happy hours after work with my friends and said no to the apps they ordered (sometimes I have a snack before I go). I’ve stuck to my salad for lunch when they order pizza at work. Sometimes I think I have will of steel. But it’s like anything else in life. I think that some people don’t have a big enough “Why?” When you want something really badly, you’ll do anything to get it and keep it.

  3. Gigi says:

    Oh, I’ve definitely been swimming with the tide for many years but am slowly waking up to fighting the good fight. My comfort zone is very comfortable but at some point, you stop growing and that’s where I was headed. Good post.

  4. Taryl says:

    I just blogged about this on Thursday and definitely agree – you almost have to be countercultural to succeed with weight maintenance, because our society values gluttony and food celebration over self control. I’ve even gotten by for several years losing weight and still participating in those values, but to get beyond this point I’ve realized a true, tough mindse shift is required and I’m actually to the point where I’m happy to make it. But I know that is RARE, and yet so necessary, for lifetime success.

    If it was easy, everyone would do it 😉

    • Diane Carbonell says:

      The term countercultural really does apply to this journey, especially with the overweight and obesity rate being so completely out of control. You have done a great job of staying tough even when things are hard.

  5. Elizabeth says:

    I also had to get tough on standing up for myself and my health. My husband will often just say, take a day off from working out and watch tv with me or you deserve a break from working out. I have to stay tough and explain why I still need to workout even though I have done so for several days. I do falter someitmes but then just have to get back on the horse 🙂 It is the same with eating out with friends. They no longer try to push desserts or bread my way because they know I just don’t eat it anymore or at least not often.

    People will get used to you being tough about your health but it does take time. My friends now know if we go out to eat, we are going to go walk the trails afterwards. One friend told me recently I was the only one she doesn’t feel guilty about eating out with because she knows I will want to exercise later.

    • Diane Carbonell says:

      I found the same thing – your friends and family will get used to your new lifestyle. It does take some toughness to stand up to them in the beginning – or at least it did for me.

  6. Joy says:

    Oh there are times when I swim with the tide and other time I push through it. This past week I feel like I have more control over my eating which is such a great feeling. When I pushing through i sometimes think of my grandfather, he was such a strong man. He quit smoking and drinking cold turkey ( he was sober for over 40 years) when he would gain some weight he would be very strict with his eating and would lose the weight. So sometime when I lose my way I think, what would Pepere do??

    Great post as always 🙂

  7. Jody - Fit at 54 says:

    LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Diane, the first thing I did was your #1. I did not care if others did not want me to bring my own food, I did.. I sat & did not eat when going out if that was right for me.. I just plugged along & made the choices that were right for me! 🙂 I did your rest too! 🙂 I just did am Instagram pic the other day of my “I am Worth IT” workout towel!

  8. Caron says:

    Sometimes I get a little iffy in my choices and in just a few days my scale will inform me that I am not on track. Of course I already knew that, but seeing it in real numbers will raise my concern substantially. Sigh.

    This week I had to put on the brakes as I was nearing my scary weight. I’ve eaten well, feel great and my scale this morning said 136. I know I can be tough. I did WW for a year and a half and made separate meals for me and my husband because it was worth it to me. I love this post. Keep up the great work. 🙂

    • Diane Carbonell says:

      I completely understand how it feels to get to that scary weight, and that’s often when I need to get tough on myself. You are so right – we need to do whatever it takes to make those positive changes, even when it gets hard or is not convenient.

  9. Tish says:

    I love that. My inner toughie–I’ve happened upon her many times, but you’ve made me realize I need to grab hands and team up with her. Thank you, Diane, for always having such great posts to help those of us still on the weight loss journey.

  10. Greg Kuhn says:

    Thank you for this post, Dianne. Quantum physics tells us that contrasting experiences (like having a tough time) can be of great value. For one, we can be grateful that our contrast is showing us what we “don’t want” anymore and, therefore, can serve as great motivation to focus on what we do want instead. I find that gratitude is the single most important feeling to nurture during weight loss (and when maintaining that weight loss). Obviously, you’ve got gratitude too because you’re inspiring us through this blog. Thank you!

  11. Lisa Mary says:

    I totally needed to hear this Diane – and I do think at times that I do need to toughen up. But, it’s a delicate balance and your words of wisdom have really made a different to me today. I am worth it – and I do have the right to chose what is best for me. I needed to hear both of those right now.
    Thanks for another fantastic post!

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