The Christmas holiday season is always full of some wonderful family experiences. We get to see our kids perform their instruments in a bunch of musical performances, listen to them sing in church, spend time with family and friends, and work hard on creating family memories that will last for years.
Here is one of my girls playing the violin for an event. (She’s in the middle.)
An often overlooked, or under talked about phenomena of the holiday seasons are those feelings that sometimes cause our holidays to be less than merry. In fact, in our small town one of the methodist churches holds a special service for people who are dealing with loss.
For me, even with all the wonderful things that happen during this time of year, there are sad memories that cloud the good memories. We lost a baby when I was 4.5 months pregnant a few years ago and had Joshua lived, he would be 3 years old this Christmas. I can’t help but thinking about that even when I watch my kids decorate our Christmas tree. (This is my oldest and youngest working together to decorate our living room tree.)
It is tempting and natural during the holiday season, or really any other time, to fall back to food as a source of comfort to soothe sad feelings. I know that I often tried to use food as a soother of emotions, and as a way to push down unpleasant feelings and emotions. Even with all my years of maintenance under my belt, I have to remind myself that overeating won’t fix anything. Nothing at all. Instead, if I overeat due to emotions, I will just be sorry later.
Like I told a friend of mine just the other day who was telling me that she just wanted to “stuff her face” with chocolate during the holiday season because it was the first year she was without her mother – “All the chocolate in the world won’t bring your mother back, and the temporary fullness of chocolate will quickly fade, leaving you once again to face the raw emotions you are feeling.” (This is something I often tell myself.)
I know this post is not all “joy and cheer,” but I just wanted to encourage you that if you feel a bit blue this holiday season to remember that one of the best things you can do for yourself is to take care of yourself emotionally by having friends and family to share experiences with, take care of yourself physically by exercising and eating right, and take care of yourself spiritually.
Any thoughts? Diane