Why Wearing Clothes That Fit Matters No Matter Your Size

I’ll be the first to admit that fashion is not one of my strong suits. I can get dressed up and look decent when I need to but on a day-to-day basis, I tend to live in jeans and my favorite oversized fleece. There are some days where I don’t have to be anywhere and the kids and I are home doing school, practicing instruments, and just doing life.

I really love those days.

However, there are days where I’m not just hanging out at home. Sometimes I forget (or ignore) that fact and still don’t put on clothes that fit very well. Usually I don’t get my picture made on such an occasion but recently I did. And then I took another picture later that very day just to remind myself that yes, clothes that fit make a difference in how you look and how you feel no matter what size you are.

My daughter and I went to Paducah, KY recently and spent some time roaming around the city. We went to a little local pizza joint and had lunch and then visited the National Quilt Museum. (If you love textiles and are ever in the area, it is 100 percent worth the price of admission.)

Anyway, I wanted to visit the museum all morning and my daughter wasn’t sure whether it would be any good. So when we got near the museum and decided to go in, I told her, “Take my picture in front of the museum and we will send it to your dad to prove I finally got to see it!” So she did.

And here is Exhibit Number One for why clothes that fit make a difference in how you look and feel:

Quilt Museum April 6

That’s not the best look I’ve ever had. The sweater, while a color other than black, is not well fitted. And that’s the only nice thing I can say about it. The pants are too long, too flared for the oversized sweater, and the shoes, well, I’ll just say they aren’t flattering.

When I saw the picture I told my daughter, “Wow, that’s a really terrible outfit. Why didn’t you tell me how bad it looks?” She laughed and said I looked fine.


Well, needless to say I spent the rest of the day clomping around in my not great outfit feeling oversized and frumpy.

That evening we went out and got dressed up. I had brought along this outfit to wear for the evening. Just for fun, I took a rare selfie in the hotel mirror. Suffice it to say, I immediately thought of a blog post on wearing clothes that fit.

Gray Dress April 6

As you can see, it fits properly and I even did my hair and makeup.

I left the hotel room feeling good about myself and the frump feeling was gone. It was a little reminder to me, who isn’t a fashionista even though I enjoy shopping at TJMaxx, to put some thought into what I’m wearing and how it makes me feel.

When I was 300 pounds I dressed poorly most of the time and my feelings about myself mirrored how I looked. I didn’t try and find clothes that fit my body properly because I thought, “Who cares? No one really looks at me.”

I wore clothes like this:

Easter. I didn't even put on my contacts. My self-esteem was extremely low.

Easter. I didn’t even put on my contacts. My self-esteem was extremely low.

And this:

After Baby 1990

As I lost weight I discovered that clothing that fit me properly not only made me look better on the outside but feel better on the inside. Here’s an outfit I wore after losing a substantial amount of weight. I even began wearing belts.

Diane Carbonell During Weight Loss Belt

Now, I’m not saying that you always have to wear super fitted clothing but I want to encourage you to wear clothes that fit you properly and make you feel good about yourself.

And while I encourage you to do that, I will take my own advice and make more of an effort to not dress like a frump!

Do you find that wearing clothes that fit makes you feel better about yourself? Diane

3 thoughts on “Why Wearing Clothes That Fit Matters No Matter Your Size

  1. mandy cat says:

    Does anyone else here remember the late great columnist Molly Ivins? She once said “I think my clothes make a statement and that statement is that here is a woman who wears clothes because it’s illegal to go around naked in public.” Molly had many wonderful traits but I guess that’s one we don’t want to emulate.

  2. Ann Borges says:

    thanks for the reminder Diane. since I retired, I don’t dress AT ALL. don’t wear makeup and stay in pj;s or sweats. I don’t even color my hair the way I use to. guess my self esteem is LOW..

  3. Mary says:

    My clothes never seem to fit. Back when I was at my highest weight, I wore clothes that were way too big. I guess this was my version of “hiding” myself. Then I lost 80 lbs. and gained most of it back. Now I’m wearing clothes are too small because I’m embarrassed to buy “fat” clothes again. I know wearing clothes that fit is more flattering, but it’s hard to care when you hate the way you look. This is something I think most overweight people face. I’ve noticed that a lot of people my size also never wear clothes that fit. It’s strange.

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