When Are You Due?


You know you are fat when:

People assume you are pregnant when you are not.

You know you are fat when:

People tell you they hope the delivery goes well.

You know you are fat when:

No matter how “slim” you feel that day, someone asks you when the baby is due.

I wish I could tell you that these types of comments were isolated incidents for me, but unfortunately they weren’t. Once I went from a averaged sized woman to an obese woman, the insensitive and rude comments increased greatly. The one comment I heard more than any other comment was this: “When is your baby due?” I remember so clearly the first time this happened to me. I was shopping in a store with Rachel, who was about 10 months old at the time. I had on a beautiful flowered jumper (in its day) and was buying a baby gift for a friend. As I was waiting in line, the woman next to me remarked that my children would be very close in age. I looked blankly at her, and said, “What?” She said, “Oh, aren’t you expecting?” I said, “No, I just hadn’t lost the baby weight yet.” It was humiliating for me, and I hope she never made that mistake again with someone else.

That type of thing happened over and over again throughout the years I was overweight. People would assume that the belly was a baby and not fat. After this happened repeatedly, I developed a pat answer. If they asked when the baby was due, I would happily say, “October.” Or, “Pretty soon now.” By responding in this way, I avoided the embarrassment for both the questioner and for myself. Unfortunately, although they went off happy, I stared after them with an expression of utter depression. I knew I was overweight and I knew I needed to lose weight. But what I didn’t know was how I was going to do it.

I had tried so many different diets and programs over the years, that I had all but given up. I had gotten to the point where I would rather put up with the humiliation of lying about the status of my body, than face up to the fact that my weight had spiraled out of control. The most embarrassing moments only served as the proverbial “nail in the coffin” for my self esteem. It wasn’t until I got scared about my weight, and got worried about my health, that I finally did something permanent about my weight.

I hope that you have never experienced this kind of embarrassing situation. If you have, know that you have my empathy and understanding. Also know that it is possible to lose weight, even if you need to lose a large amount of weight. By following the Fit to the Finish plan, many people have moved past having to live with embarrassing moments, and gone forward into a new lifestyle and a new attitude.

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